{"id":3349,"date":"2012-03-21T05:21:47","date_gmt":"2012-03-21T05:21:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/paulgoodchild.net\/blog\/?p=3349"},"modified":"2012-03-21T08:43:12","modified_gmt":"2012-03-21T08:43:12","slug":"todays-musings-better-to-go-with-someone-than-go-it-alone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/paulgoodchild.me\/blog\/todays-musings-better-to-go-with-someone-than-go-it-alone\/","title":{"rendered":"Today’s Musings: Better to go with someone than go it alone"},"content":{"rendered":"

It’s funny how our priorities can change.\u00a0 And how quickly at that.<\/p>\n

I left Japan 2.5 years ago and back then I was driven by a desire to help – to give back somehow. I also wanted to hit the road<\/a> and see what the world had to offer.<\/p>\n

And that’s just what I got. I learned a shitload along the way and though the diversity and length of the travel wasn’t how I’d had imagined, it was a superb time well spent.<\/p>\n

Fundamentally, my intentions haven’t changed in terms of doing meaningful work<\/a>, but experience has taught me how effective I can be without a healthy bank account.<\/p>\n

Now, after spending the past 12-18 months living fairly stationary in Europe, my priorities have definitely shifted dramatically.<\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

Going it alone gets old<\/h2>\n

The biggest change in priorities is a growing desire to not do it alone – simply put, I’m tired of living a life by myself.<\/p>\n

I’m spending the last day of a week-long holiday in Thailand sitting in a hotel on my own. The feeling of isolation that follows an intense week spent with some of the best friends in my life, that I barely see once in a year is… overwhelming, if I’m to be completely honest.<\/p>\n

In times like these the need to have a partner<\/a>, a close companion, is felt most strongly.<\/p>\n

For quite a long time, after I split with a long-term girlfriend, “doing it alone” was preferable.\u00a0 Sure, we’re all nearly always looking for a partner, and while I sometimes pursued this, I was generally happy enough to let it come to me.<\/p>\n

Life is easier this way, in many respects. But I think it just isn’t as fun<\/a>.<\/p>\n

I’m a little surprised at myself for feeling so strongly about this. For so long I’ve maintained a strong notion of independence, and freedom from the drive of meeting that special someone<\/a> and ultimately settling down.<\/p>\n

Ultimately I guess that can only last for so long and it will eventually catch up on you.<\/p>\n

Best not to fight it<\/a>, eh…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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