{"id":3380,"date":"2012-04-12T10:15:22","date_gmt":"2012-04-12T09:15:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/paulgoodchild.net\/blog\/?p=3380"},"modified":"2012-04-12T10:24:14","modified_gmt":"2012-04-12T09:24:14","slug":"one-solution-to-life-imbalance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/paulgoodchild.me\/blog\/one-solution-to-life-imbalance\/","title":{"rendered":"One Solution To Life Imbalance"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure id=\"attachment_3386\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-3386\" style=\"width: 183px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><a href=\"http:\/\/paulgoodchild.net\/blog\/?attachment_id=3386\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-3386\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-3386\" title=\"Balancing Act\" src=\"http:\/\/paulgoodchild.net\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/04\/balancing-act-183x300.jpg\" alt=\"Balancing Act\" width=\"183\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/paulgoodchild.me\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/04\/balancing-act-183x300.jpg 183w, https:\/\/paulgoodchild.me\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/04\/balancing-act-91x150.jpg 91w, https:\/\/paulgoodchild.me\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/04\/balancing-act.jpg 366w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 183px) 100vw, 183px\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-3386\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">A little wobbly on your feet?<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>I&#8217;ll tell you something for nothing, and it doesn&#8217;t matter who you are, where you&#8217;re from or what you&#8217;re doing, but this rule is always the same.<\/p>\n<p>If you place excessive emphasis on <em>any one element<\/em>\u00a0in your life, you do so to the detriment of your health, your mental well-being, and <strong>who you are<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>For some reason this is a lesson I must <em>learn<\/em>, and <em>re-learn<\/em> time and time again.<\/p>\n<p>Why?<\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t know.\u00a0(So what&#8217;s the point of this article then?)<\/p>\n<p>Well I do know &#8211; unfortunately the solution is tied-up in the problem.<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<h2>The Solution to Work-Life-Love-Health Balance?<\/h2>\n<p>Friends (and\/or family).<\/p>\n<p>Not just any friends &#8211; you need people who will tell you <em>how it is<\/em> regardless of how much it&#8217;s going to hurt.<\/p>\n<p>I was reminded, quite emphatically, this last weekend of what I&#8217;m doing wrong.<\/p>\n<p>Twice.<\/p>\n<p>The problem <strong>isn&#8217;t<\/strong> that I don&#8217;t know what I&#8217;m doing wrong &#8211; <strong>I know\u00a0what I&#8217;m doing wrong<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>We nearly always do when we do.<\/p>\n<p>But I just needed to hear it.<\/p>\n<p>It needs to come from somewhere outside of me and from someone I trust &#8211; someone that doesn&#8217;t have alternative agenda.<\/p>\n<p>As you&#8217;ve heard a million times, I&#8217;m introverted by nature (<a title=\"Introverts are not shy\" href=\"http:\/\/paulgoodchild.net\/blog\/2009\/04\/introverts-are-not-shy\/\">no, I&#8217;m not shy<\/a>) which means I have a greater tendancy to think things through internally.<\/p>\n<p>Over and over&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>This is fine. I&#8217;m happy with this arrangement. The problem comes when it involves strong emotions or I&#8217;m heavily imbalanced in my life (too much focus on work at the moment), eventually logic is pushed out the nearest exit.<\/p>\n<p>I turn inwards more and more and this means I&#8217;ll shut out practically everyone who doesn&#8217;t bang the door down.<\/p>\n<p>This <a title=\"Want the secret to developing poor friendships?\" href=\"http:\/\/paulgoodchild.net\/blog\/2012\/02\/secret-to-developing-poor-friendship\/\">approach helps you lose friends<\/a>, or at least guarantees your relationships will shift so far that getting the kick in the arse you need is more difficult.<\/p>\n<h2>You cannot walk alone<\/h2>\n<p>I need truth-sayers around me to keep me sane; to help me gain the perspective I need when life get turned on its head.<\/p>\n<p>And perhaps you do too.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re in a pickle and you know why &#8211; find your friends that you trust and get out of them the logic and sense that you <em>know you need to be told<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>You wont like it, and you&#8217;ll probably feel the need to defend yourself.<\/p>\n<p>But that&#8217;s okay&#8230; it&#8217;s a start. When you find yourself strongly defending your position, it&#8217;s often a good sign you&#8217;re in the wrong position.<\/p>\n<p>Now, go ye forth and multiply.<\/p>\n<p>[<a href=\"http:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/jinterwas\/3910087357\/\">photo credit<\/a>]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The solution to life imbalances?  Friends.  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