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Is there only one?<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

There are a couple of things that have prompted me to write on this topic – today it was a sitcom where someone simply said:<\/p>\n

“I want that.”<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

And that<\/em> in question is simply the companionship that comes with having a woman in my life.<\/p>\n

One that complements me, and whom I also complement. Someone… who fills in the gaps in my life that I’ll never be able to, and who permits me to make up the gaps in hers; someone filled with a passion for living, is happy, and driven to find a sense of fulfilment in what she does;\u00a0 someone with a love for children and an appreciation for the responsibility, that raising them implies; someone…<\/p>\n

… and the list could go on.\u00a0 On some level, I feel, I’ll know it when I see it, but will I?\u00a0 I find myself doubting<\/a> this also.\u00a0 It’s been over 3 years since my previous, and first, long-term relationship ended.\u00a0 I have met a couple of women since that time, but I haven’t fallen crazy in-love ready to change everything for it.\u00a0 There have been those who have had, for one reason or another, great potential but ultimately nothing lasting materialized.<\/p>\n

The single biggest reason for this is timing<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Timing is an absolute beaatch<\/h2>\n

There are varying examples of how timing has stepped-up out of nowhere and thumped me in the belly.<\/p>\n

Probably most significant is where they’re seeing someone else, or I just missed the boat and someone beat me to it – the latter particularly sucks.\u00a0 Then there were those who I became infatuated<\/a> with and couldn’t somehow muster any confidence at the time to do something about – there were always plenty of why not<\/em><\/strong>s, and rarely enough of the why I should<\/strong><\/em>s.<\/p>\n

Then there were those with major timing issues where the path and direction of my life, or her life, was moving us apart.<\/p>\n

Sometimes it was nothing to do with timing, but rather plain incompatibilities.\u00a0 I have a horrible tendency to extrapolate and this often scuttles it, and removing the passion on my part barely before it’s taken hold – I’ll talk about this more later.<\/p>\n

Is there only one<\/em> and what are we supposed to do when we find it?<\/h2>\n

Who hasn’t asked this question?<\/p>\n

Is there really only one person suited to us and to whom we’re destined to be with forever<\/em>?\u00a0 I’m torn.\u00a0 My logic tells me one thing, but traditions and social conditioning tell me another.\u00a0 I’ll start with conditioning first and describe more precisely what I mean…<\/p>\n

Social conditioning predicts that I should\/will meet the <\/em>wonderful woman who will be everything I’d hoped for and more. I will fall in love with her, and she with me.\u00a0 We’ll marry and typically have some children.\u00a0 I’ll go to work and keep us all sheltered, fed, and watered.\u00a0 She may work too, but in all likelihood, she will stay at home and raise the children (this isn’t chauvinism, it’s the norm.\u00a0 And if you suggest getting a nanny so that mummy can work too, then we view the raising of children very differently.\u00a0 Here endeth the lesson).\u00a0 We’ll grow old together and send our kids off to college and may even live long enough to see some grand children, looking forward to baby-sitting them, with frequent family gatherings over the holidays and at weekends.\u00a0 That is assuming, of course, that everyone gets along merrily – me, the wife, the siblings and the in-laws.\u00a0 How lovely.<\/p>\n

Part of me thinks that’s nice, but the larger part of me thinks that’s just completely horrid.\u00a0 In principle, when you look at the individual pieces of the story there’s nothing particularly horrible about any of them, but altogether, I just can’t see it fitting with me.\u00a0 There are those that say, and have said to me, “At some point, you have to just settle down and take responsibility for yourself and your partner; plan for your future children’s lives.”.\u00a0 There’s a whole other discussion in there, but my point is, the social pressures that mount as we grow older are powerful and it feels that ultimately I will stand in solitary with my views for the way I would like my life to progress.<\/p>\n

So what does my logic tell me?\u00a0 It tells me simply that… there are people out there to whom I can be attracted, and that are simultaneously attracted to me.\u00a0 The mutual attraction is dependent on where we both are in our lives, and more importantly, where we are on a particular day – i.e. the day(s) when we first meet one another.\u00a0 I don’t believe, with the population as it is right now, that there is only 1 person that fits the bill since if I exaggerate this and state the population of the earth is 100 (50\/50) people, what’s the chances there is someone for everyone?\u00a0 Not very likely!\u00a0 But there are a lot<\/em> of us, so chances are high that more than just one out there has what it takes.<\/p>\n

So let’s say I meet one of these special somebodys… what next?\u00a0 Well, we get to know one another and it either progresses further into very significant intimacy, or it does not.\u00a0 And here is where I personally run into trouble…<\/p>\n

Unless we are both very highly conscious individuals throughout the development of the relationship, then our characters, that is our ego<\/a>, is ever-changing.\u00a0 And if our characters are going to constantly change, then the complementary roles we would have played for one another at any given time would be superseded by the needs of both parties to change in order to meet the changing needs of the other.<\/p>\n

Say that again?<\/em> Okay, here it is again \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n

Unless we are both very highly conscious individuals throughout the development of the relationship, then our characters, that is our ego<\/a>, is ever-changing.\u00a0 And if our characters are going to constantly change, then the complementary roles we would have played for one another at any given time would be superseded by the needs of both parties to change in order to meet the changing needs of the other.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Or have I got it completely wrong?<\/p>\n

What I’m basically saying is that the one<\/em> that exists at any given period is not necessarily the same one<\/em> that exists later on.\u00a0 The same individual may satisfy the needs<\/a> at both times, but in all likelihood, may not.<\/p>\n

The fear<\/h2>\n

I have recognised the presence of an underlying fear that shows up when I meet someone I could potentially be attracted to.\u00a0 It’s a powerful conditioning I have created that gets to work long before I realise its presence sometimes.<\/p>\n

When I meet a ‘potential’ I run through scenarios of what could come from a relationship with them.\u00a0 What I might have to ask of them, and what they might ask of me to permit a relationship to develop between us.\u00a0 In effect, I will convince myself why I cannot be with this person due to the magnitude of the commitments that will be necessary in the future<\/em>.\u00a0 Yes, the future – but I habitually bring the fear of long-term commitment and all those socially-conditioned elements to the fore and attempt to justify them there and then. I have now effectively convinced myself of the complete absurdity that a relationship with this person represents, before I’ve even started.<\/p>\n

What I was saying earlier about the one<\/em> is important here since I feel I’m growing and changing all the time, I’m likely to change significantly as this progresses so whomever I’m with will either have to grow with me and adapt, and I with her also, or it’s not going to work.\u00a0 So… I should wait until my growth has stabilised.\u00a0 Riiiight.\u00a0 Implacable logic, eh?<\/p>\n

If there’s one sure way to stay single all your life kiddies, this is it!<\/p>\n

When I write it all out, it sounds silly… which, incidentally, is why I write this blog.\u00a0 This year, I have thrown caution to the wind once or twice and looked no further than my nose.\u00a0 It’s been exciting and it advocates living in the now<\/a>, but long-term, that hasn’t worked out either.<\/p>\n

The cure<\/h2>\n

The cure is pushing myself to live in the now<\/em> – as is always the case it seems.\u00a0 But then again, I think there is a balance to sought.\u00a0 I need to practice not running mental movies and extrapolations too soon<\/em> and leave that until a little bit later down, but just enjoy the fun and the excitement that comes with getting your groove on. \ud83d\ude00<\/p>\n

Come what may…<\/p>\n

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